Thursday, April 14, 2011

The Big Change

For the world population that is not following up with my super-fast changing life, I am now married! Yes, went through all of the traditional arranged marriage routine.

Past few months… So much has happened!

Numerous heavy bull fights with parents when the tabooed topic of marriage was initiated; mom’s strong persuasion; crying out to friends on how painful and irritating the discussions were; Progress in career and hectic stressful 16 hour working days in office; Finally mom’s victory in finding ‘The Guy’ for me and days of convincing me to get married; my first retaliation to the very idea of marriage; Dad’s pitching in on the project of convincing me for marriage; my first embarrassed gtalk chat with Him at 12 in the night; our first few hesitant and awkward talks over the phone; our first meet in McDs’ in Velachery; His first gift of a Fasttrack watch; nice McDs' Burgers and ice tea :P; Both of us nodding a ‘Qabool’ to “Us”; Our Engagement; His visits to Chennai and mine to Blore; Wedding plans n shopping; More and more office work in the peak; Kadalai with fiancĂ©; More Shopping; Advices from every Tom Dick and Harry; More work; Driving in Chennai heat and increasing traffic due to Chennai Metro; More kadalai; More and more unending shopping… and it went on till the end on my bachelorette life!

The marriage itself was a blur. Lots of people telling me when to do what, what to do how, how to do why, why… there was almost never an answer to that other than – “That’s the tradition, and it has to be done that way. End of discussion.” I was specifically instructed to bundle up my rationality and logic thinking and throw it away until the marriage got over. Rule number 1 was DO NOT ASK QUESTIONS.

Though a lot of people came to the wedding and told me that the food was great, I was hardly able to have a bit of it. Loads of controversies; several rituals – both meaningful and meaningless; many Saree changes; numerous pics – by professional photographer and relatives/friends; now and then pampering :P; parlour ladies and their resolution to make me look unrecognizable; Flowers everywhere; And Jewels too; Hymns, Chants and Holy Fire; Buzz in my ears; People colorfully dressed, running around; Total chaos and noise; People saying “Aww she looks so beautiful” though I felt that I looked like a stuffed goat with Jewels and flowers; Continuous ‘Cheese’ and ThanQs in the reception for full 3 hours… Sigh!

These are all I remember! The rest of the picture, I got only from the photos!

It all blew so fast, with hardly any time to stand aside and breathe. After a week in Andaman (yeah, nice break, but not planning to elaborate on that :P), here I am in Bangalore, settling down - back to eating eggs, going on facebook and GMail as and when I want, blogging, sitting in a silent office that the Bangalore branch is (dead-silent when compared to the Chennai office, which is much more friendlier, casual and noisier), wearing sober cotton kurtis, watching Dexter and House, driving my pep+ (which was taken away from me in the month before marriage for ‘my safety’), eating corn flakes, sight-adichufying good looking guys in Bangalore (;D)… slowly settling down…


  1. okay - we need a more detailed narration please !! if u think u can you can just write 4 or 5 paras on whatever you went through in the last 3 months, you are heavily mistaken considering your ability to rant on and on and on on futile discussions / topics ( now now. thats a compliment !!) .. and also we would love to see some pics of andaman .. i mean the place :P :P

  2. The best thing I have read in along time. Spent 2 hours reading stuff here, was so much fun.

  3. If you think you're done telling us this fast-track story, you're wrong!!

    Didnt even bother to tell us you were "about to get married" !! :D

  4. And would you pls be a doll and enable "Subscribe by email" to your blog? I think you know how bad a memory i hav -- it'd be grt to have yur updates on my mail ;)
    pls pls pretty pls with cherry on top?

  5. @ prasad: u'll get a lot of pics of andaman in google images. ensoy! :P

  6. @ whom-so-ever-it-may-concern: thanks! :)

  7. @ scorpia: :P sorry for the late update.. will activate the "Subscribe by email" too. :)

  8. This is fantastic narration of a marriage. Awesome! I had followed your updates on Facebook and knew you were married but didn't know you were in Bangalore. We must catch up some time...

  9. heyyy!!! loong time! good to cya! and wats more? good to c uve cme to Blore!!! Welcome to the city! and hope to meet smeday! :)

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