Wednesday, November 26, 2008

Uncomfortable Silence

Mia: Don't you hate that?
Vincent: What?
Mia: Uncomfortable silences.
Why do we feel it's necessary to yak about bullshit order to be comfortable?
Vincent: I don't know. That's a good question.
Mia: That's when you know you've found somebody special.
When you can just shut the fuck up for a minute and comfortably enjoy the silence.

-Pulp Fiction

Love this convo. It’s not something that Chandler alone has difficulty in dealing with - uncomfortable social circumstances and a weird company and probably uncanny situations. But then, our life is filled with these, in all aspects! Under these conditions, people behave very strangely to make themselves comfortable or at least to pass the time, waiting for the ordeal to end. I have realized that I talk a lot, try to make small conversations when I am ill at ease. Man! Tats really hard, mainly because sometimes you know that you don’t have anything common with the person sitting in front of you, staring at you, expecting you to be the initiator and to rack your brains for a suitable subject. But its harder when the person waiting for your response is a stranger, where you don’t even know whether you even have anything in common, or if there is any tabooed topic or how his/her response would be!
I actually love silence n blissful peace, but only when I m comfortable, with a soothing company with whom I don’t really have to ‘try’ to make small talk to relax. Their very presence would be enough to settle my heartbeat rate to the normal 72/min. No. I am not referring to a BF or a spouse here. It could be anyone. Mostly friends coz even my parents are kinda my best friends in a way. Ironically, I am not very fond the silence when I am alone (unless I am depressed about something and want to be alone with my own self :P), or with an awkward company. I prefer some sound, even jarring noises in those times. I hate to be the one talking and making stupid irrelevant jokes that the strangers don’t even understand (one could go crazy if their attempted PJ is a waste and no one understands or appreciates it. It’s an insult to the very joke, u see). But talking crap is better than the awkward silence any day! Hence, though I love that Pulp Fiction dialog, I feel that it IS necessary to yak about bullshit in order to be comfortable, and you DON’T need to have found somebody SPECIAL in order to shut the fuck up and comfortably enjoy the silence. You just need a FRIEND. Tats all.
As the song goes…

Jaane kyun dil jaanta hai…
Tu hai to I ll be all right!
I ll be all right!
I ll be all right!


  1. Looks who's back!! How did you manage to keep yourself quiet for so long. I don't like silence too but I am not one of those conversation starters that you are

  2. I prefer to remain silent after reading this post ! Sshh...

    Btw, what inspired you to write this? Did anyone advise you to SHUT UP ?? :D :D

  3. @ varun: i had no choice u c.. :P crazy days! hope this corporate life doesnt remain this hectic forever!

    @ vimal: LOL.. y remain silent after this post? wat did i say? :P

    n no.. no1 really told me to shut up, but in the recent past, i have definitely been in a couple of such awkward situations. :P

  4. Someone at work HAD tried to send you a signal na? (SHUT UP signal). Awkward silences are usually accompanied by some crisis that ALWAYS gets to me. :(

  5. Hmmm... Well, circumstances can demand so much. You'll want to stay by yourself... Or, wish to feel the company of someone.

    But yeah... The gift of the gab can lighten up the heaviest of hearts. ;) (May be tht's why the fairer sex are known to be oh-so garrulous???)

    Welcome back...


  6. @ vivek: nonsense... no1 wud dare give me such signals.. :P
    but as i had rplied to vimal, it has nothing to do wid my working atmosphere..

    back in d college, never faced wid this ordeal coz be it a friend or a friend's friend or even some other student, we wud alwas find some common topic like some dumb prof or a screwed up fellow student or some new couples n d old broken ones or ridiculous courses n all.. but now, i hardly know these ppl around me and sometimes, its quite maddening.. :P get wat i mean?

  7. @ kartz: hey wtf? the fairer sex are NOT known to be always garrulous!!! i infact know a number of the 'darker sex' to be irritatingly babbly n whiny like an 8 year old.. :P

  8. @ mats: sume darling.. will read it.

  9. You have been awarded and tagged :

  10. i love that song man...such a feel-good song!
    btw u aregonna hafta mail me ur posts here onwards.

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